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Thoughts on Cancer by Serge Kahili King
My younger brother died of cancer in his early thirties, and my mother
died of complications involving cancer when she was in her eighties. And I
have had the opportunity to work with many people suffering from that disease.
In every case I am familiar with, and according to many medical experts,
cancer has both physical and emotional aspects. The strength of each of these
can amplify the other, and the healing of either of these can help to heal the
other.
My brother had lung cancer. He was a heavy smoker and had a lot of stress in
his life. In addition, he fit the personality profile observed in almost 1000
lung cancer patients by Dr. David Kissen of Southern General Hospital in
Glasgow: before he was fifteen one of his parents died (our father); there
were marital difficulties; and there were professional frustrations.
Naturally, a very large number of people may have these particular
experiences, but what Dr. Kissen considered significant was how many of the
cancer patients reacted to them. Typically, they held in emotional expression
and denied conflicts. This certainly described my brother.
My mother had lung cancer. She also lost her father before the age of
fifteen, and had her share of marital difficulties and professional
frustrations, too. And, she held in emotional expression and denied conflicts
as well.
Similar relationships between emotions, experiences of loss or frustration,
and all forms of cancer have been noted in many medical studies (two good
sources for this kind of information, if they are still available, are
Psychosomatics, by Howard R. and Martha E. Lewis [Pinnacle Books, 1975]
and Who Gets Sick, by Blair Justice, Ph.D. [Jeremy P. Tarcher, 1988]).
The common thread of emotional response in all forms of cancer (and, I
suspect, in all disease), is a frustrated desire to control experience in some
way. There is a wide variation in what people are trying to control. Some are
trying to control their own behavior; some are trying to control the behavior
of others; some are trying to control past, present, or future events; some
are trying to control it all. It is not surprising that cancer is often
associated with symptoms of depression, but it not always clear whether the
depression is associated with the cancer, or with something else that the
person cannot control.
In my own experience with and observation of people with cancer, I have
noted that the most successful recoveries seem to be strongly associated with
major mental, emotional, or physical behavioral changes among the people with
the illness. What is major for one person, of course, may not be the same for
another. Some people get results from radically changing their whole
lifestyle, while others get results from forgiving a longtime resentment. I
know of one success where a woman left her family, took up a different
religion, changed her clothing and diet, and moved to a different country.
Maybe she needed all of those changes and maybe not, but overall it worked for
her. I know of another person, a man, who simply stopped trying to outdo his
father, and that worked for him.
My brother, however, didn't change his reactions or his life. And my mother,
right to the very end, refused to give up grudges she had held for many years
against many people. If you want to change something, you have to change
something.
Whenever we try to control something by mental, emotional, or physical
means, and whenever we fail to control it to the degree that we want, we
increase the tension in our body. The more often we try and fail, the greater
the increase of tension. Not everyone gets cancer because of this since the
specific outcome of excess tension depends on so many different genetic,
environmental, and mental factors, but I believe that healing the control
issues can be of tremendous benefit in helping to heal cancer and, probably,
everything else that needs healing.
The need for control is based on fear, and fear itself generates tension.
Control, then, is merely a technique for trying not to feel afraid. Maybe a
good place to start the healing process would be to stop trying to control
fear, and do something to change the fear reaction, instead.
It is an experiential fact that you cannot feel fear if your body is totally
relaxed. However, even though there are hundreds, if not thousands, of ways to
relax, such as massage, meditation, play, laughter, herbs, drugs, etc., that
does not always solve the problem. The real problem lies behind the tension,
and behind the fear. The real problem is not even the idea that something is
fearful. The real problem is that you feel helpless. When this problem is
solved the fear disappears (not the common sense, just the helpless fear), the
need for control disappears, and a huge amount of tension disappears.
Fundamentally, what I'm really talking about is confidence, a kind of core
confidence not related to a specific talent, or skill, or behavior, or
experience, or piece of knowledge. Lots of teachers and lots of merchants
offer ways to get this kind of confidence, and my own works contain many ideas
about it, so rather than limit your possibilities by suggesting a particular
technique, I'm only going to share a couple of Hawaiian words for confidence
whose root meanings may point you in the right direction:
Paulele - "stop jumping around"
Kanaloa - "extended calm"
There is no quick and easy fix I know of that will produce this kind of
confidence. It takes internal awareness and one or more internal decisions,
but even that will only work if it results in a different way of responding to
life.
Copyright by Aloha International 2003
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